Answers to the questions I hear most — about shadow work, what coaching looks like, and how to know if you're ready.
Shadow work is the process of turning toward the parts of yourself you've learned to hide, suppress, or deny — and integrating them back into your whole self. The "shadow" is a concept rooted in Jungian psychology: it refers to the unconscious aspects of our personality that we've pushed into the dark, usually because we were told they were unacceptable.
These hidden parts don't disappear. They show up as patterns — the relationships we keep choosing, the self-sabotage before success, the emotional reactions that feel disproportionate, the deep sense that something is missing. Shadow work shines a light on those patterns so they lose their power over you.
This is one of the most common fears — and it's a fair question. Shadow work can bring up deep emotions, old memories, and uncomfortable truths. That's the point. But it doesn't have to be destabilising, and in a well-held coaching space, it isn't.
The difference between shadow work feeling overwhelming versus transformative comes down to pacing and support. I work at your pace, in a container built on safety and compassion. We go only as deep as you're ready to go. You are always in control of the process.
If you are currently in acute crisis or have a diagnosed condition that requires clinical care, I may recommend working with a therapist alongside or instead of coaching — and I'll always be honest with you about that.
Journaling and meditation are valuable practices — they can open the door. But the shadow is, by definition, the part of you that you cannot easily see on your own. It's unconscious. That's what makes it shadow.
Working with a guide means someone trained to notice what you can't notice yourself. I reflect back patterns in your language, your stories, your blind spots — things a journal cannot do. The relational aspect of coaching is itself part of the healing. Many of our deepest wounds were created in relationship, and they heal in relationship too.
No experience required, and no particular belief system either. I work with people who are completely new to inner work and with people who have been on the path for years. What matters is willingness — a genuine desire to look at yourself honestly.
I don't impose frameworks or spiritual language. We work with what resonates for you. The shadow doesn't care what you call it — it just wants to be seen.
"I have found tremendous beauty in such deep pain through working with Stephanie."
No, this is not therapy and I am not a licensed therapist. Coaching and therapy are different — both valuable, and sometimes both are the right choice at the same time.
Therapy is clinically focused, often works with diagnosed conditions, and is oriented toward healing the past. Coaching works with where you are now and where you want to go — using the insights from inner work to move forward in your actual life. Shadow work coaching bridges both: we honour the past without being stuck in it.
If you're unsure whether you need therapy, coaching, or both, bring that question to our alignment call and we'll figure it out together.
Sessions take place on Zoom and typically run 60 minutes. Every session is different — they're built around you, not a script. We might work with something that came up in your week, a pattern you've been noticing, a dream, a trigger, a relationship dynamic, or something from your past that's been surfacing.
I use a blend of somatic awareness, parts work, Jungian concepts, and intuitive guidance — tailored to what serves you. Sessions are conversational, but they go deep. Most clients describe them as feeling simultaneously like a mirror being held up and like coming home.
It depends on what you mean by results. Some people leave their first session with a clarity or relief they haven't felt in years. Deeper pattern-level change — the kind that rewires how you relate to yourself and others — typically unfolds over months, not weeks.
This isn't a quick fix, and I won't pretend it is. But the people who commit to this work consistently describe it as one of the most significant investments they've made in themselves. One client went from being a server to becoming the general manager of a 60-person team in under two years. The inner work tends to express outwardly in ways that surprise you.
Yes — and it's one of the things that makes this work so transformative. Between sessions you'll be given assignments that may include journaling practices, readings, activities, challenges, visualizations, and more. The work doesn't stop when the call ends.
This is intentional. Shadow work is an active process, and the integration happens in the in-between — in how you move through your days differently, what you notice, and what you choose. Your life becomes the lab.
"This is more than just talking and listening — this is interactive work that you do on yourself outside of sessions too. In order to truly grow you need to get in touch with your shadow."
A single 1:1 session is $222. For those ready for sustained, deeper transformation, I offer packages at $200 per session — either a 6-month container (meeting 2–4x/month) or a 3-month 3-month more acute container.
If investment is a concern, bring it to our alignment call. I don't want cost alone to be the reason someone doesn't do this work.
All sessions are held via Zoom, which means we can work together no matter where in the world you are. All you need is a private space where you feel comfortable, a reliable internet connection, and an hour to be fully present with yourself.
The alignment call is a free, no-pressure 30-minute conversation where we get to know each other. I'll ask what's going on for you, what you're hoping this work will change, and answer any questions you have.
There's no obligation to book anything afterward. The purpose is simply to see if we're a good fit — for both of us. I take my clients seriously, and I want to make sure I'm the right person for your journey before we begin.
If you're asking that question, you're probably closer to ready than you think. Readiness rarely feels like certainty — it usually feels like a quiet knowing that what you've been doing isn't working anymore, and that something needs to change.
You don't need to have the words for what you're looking for. You don't need to have your life together. You don't need to feel brave. You just need to be willing to show up honestly. I'll meet you exactly where you are.
Let's connect to see if we're a good fit — no pressure, just a real conversation about this work and how it can transform you.
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